
Who Is Really in Control of Your Divorce?
The Choice of Who Is in Charge of Your Divorce Is Yours One of the questions during a divorce is:
The good news is that you get to write it.
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy
not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Socrates
Finding creative solutions that work for everyone—whether divorcing, dissolving a business or resolving a dispute—is both tremendously challenging and truly satisfying. I spent a career as a New York City and Westchester County lawyer litigating conflicts through the judicial system. Now, it is a pleasure for me to offer less contentious alternatives that my clients find consistent with their personal values.
Together, we focus on what matters most: a resolution that leaves all parties with their shared goals achieved and their individual dignity intact. By facilitating productive discussion, I help people navigate the difficulties of the conflict without enduring the misery of combat.
The philosophy and techniques of mediation and collaborative divorce are often more effective and always far less stressful than the bureaucracy and battles that take place in court. Securing a future on your own terms can make your divorce (or commercial dispute) feel like the first chapter of a satisfying story, not a tale of regret and remorse. We aim for “real” resolution.
More than ever, people are turning to mediation and collaborative divorce to resolve their divorces and commercial disputes because of the unique benefits they provide. I am trained to resolve conflicts in a modern, practical way – with a focus on helping you create a stable and secure future. Together, we work toward common goals and achieve desired outcomes for everyone involved.

As a mediator, I help you to resolve disputes by remaining neutral. I guide the conversation and provide valuable information so that you can make the important decisions. Because no one knows what is right for your family better than you.
A team of skilled professionals work together with you to find satisfying solutions and provide maximum support along the way.
Preserving resources, maximizing opportunities, reducing wasteful contention, and protecting hard-earned assets are what mediation and collaborative law were founded upon—but they’re not only for divorce.
Parties to mediation can benefit enormously from review and consultation with an independent attorney.
The use of interest-based negotiation along with the many tools of mediation and collaborative law help to ensure that you can have the conversations you need to have in a way that honors and respects the importance of protecting your nascent relationship.

Ask yourself and your partner

The Choice of Who Is in Charge of Your Divorce Is Yours One of the questions during a divorce is:

Even in a high conflict divorce, a couple may still be able to use Mediation effectively to resolve their issues.

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