Children and Divorce
Why does mediation and collaborative divorce work best for parents?
Successfully shepherding your children through a divorce requires more than merely seeing to their financial needs. Helping parents to work together to consider and meet all of their children’s needs, even and especially in the face of dramatic changes to their own relationship, is at the core of mediation and collaborative law.
And the benefits can be much greater than just finding the best solutions. By promoting a healthy co-parenting relationship, participants are setting their families up for long term success. Instead of getting lost in the conflict, parents get to truly focus on what it takes to protect their children.
As a family mediator, I will work with you to cover all the bases and address all of the issues of importance to you and your children.
A healthy, reliable schedule
It’s important to develop a structure that cultivates healthy relationships between you and your children–and between both of their parents. This often includes a plan for parenting time.
Life is complicated and finding ways to navigate children’s and parent’s schedules requires determination and cooperation. Regular weekly scheduling, vacations, travel – we work together to design the schedule that works best for your family. No matter how old they are, how you choose to handle your divorce can have a profound effect on your children. As a family mediator, I’ll help you focus your attention on what matters most.
Health care: structure and plan for the unexpected
Cash flow: protect and stabilize
some concerns for which we might create detailed plans and formulas include:
- Child care
- Extracurricular activities
- Day-to-day expenses
- School trips
- Milestone events
- Summer Camp
- Wills and estate planning
- Rising costs (inflation)
Education: set common goals
We know that your children’s education matters to you. We will help you have the important discussions around your educational priorities and how to fund them. Working together, we’ll seek to create a common goal and discuss how you plan to achieve it together.
Strategies for making important decisions
Achieving success means having productive discussions around the important decisions in your children’s lives. You may not always agree, but your children are counting on you to make the right choices for them – both now and after you separate. My goal as a family mediator or collaborative lawyer is to provide you with safe, effective and nondestructive ways to have those discussions.
I’ll provide the forum and strategies to avoid speaking through intermediaries, lawyers or the court to reach sound decisions yourselves. Because no one knows the right answers for your children better than you do.
What if?: balancing as your life evolves
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