Divorce & Family Mediation

A mediator is a neutral person, sounding board and guide who manages and keeps the conversation going and properly focused. My experience in matrimonial law, training in conflict management, and dedication to productive, respectful interactions, enable me to facilitate talking—and listening—between both partners without passing judgment or taking sides.

Control over the outcome

Mediators don’t make decisions; you do. There is no one better suited to decide all the important aspects of your family’s life than you. Because you maintain the ultimate decision making authority, mediation allows couples to safely discuss and explore alternatives with the confidence of knowing that nothing will be decided unless they say it is. Instead of fearfully avoiding discussing options, clients in mediation get to think creatively while remaining secure in the knowledge that being open to possibility doesn’t need to involve risk.

Reaching decisions together

Although it is often viewed as an ending, divorce usually does not represent a hard stop to a relationship. For many people, it really is more of a sign post along the way: an inflection point where roles and relationships are reset and redefined. For parents, this means transitioning from being partners to being co-parents. And how well they navigate that shift can have tremendous impacts on their lives and the lives of their children. 

Mediation recognizes that the ability to communicate, to make decisions together and to maintain focus on what matters most are essential tools for any parents. And this can be especially challenging for parents who are living independent lives. The very process of mediation is an exercise in just that sort of cooperative effort. And a successful mediation can help provide parents with both the experience and confidence to navigate the many decisions they will face in the future. It can provide an opportunity to begin the co-parenting relationship on the right foot and set families up for success.

Protecting Valuable Resources

Money spent fighting is money that will not be available to either of you. Mediation clients understand this well. Your hard-earned funds could be better spent building and securing your family’s future. Like all professional services, mediation costs money too.  But seeking fiscally sound solutions in the most efficient manner is always the goal. We work to keep everyone’s eye on the prize: a successful resolution that preserves your assets for the things that matter most.

My Role as a Mediator

I’ll guide both of you through the divorce process. Together we will have the discussions you need to have in a productive way. Our goals will be simple: to emerge with the asset distribution, parenting arrangements, and cash flow solutions that work best for you in the most efficient manner possible.

As a mediator, I remain open to all sides of your situation so I can help ease conflicts, guide constructive conversations, and enable you to reach a resolution that meets everyone’s needs.
But as a former litigator, I’m also intimately acquainted with that very different and often difficult route, in which advocates are adversaries and always someone, if not everyone, loses. 
I’m here now to help you meet those challenges head-on, openly and in a spirit of cooperation.

The Mediator's Toolbox

  • Setting the tone for constructive negotiation
  • Creating an atmosphere conducive to honest discussion
  • Turning competition into cooperation
  • Working with trust issues
  • Seeking practical solutions that work for both partners
  • Understanding and working with power imbalances
  • Working through anger and conflict to identify shared goals
  • Preparing legal memoranda and any required settlement documents

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